When Suman Shakya reflects on his childhood in Diktel, Khotang, he can’t help but chuckle. Growing up in the early 2000s, his parents were constantly urging him to stay indoors before and after school—a request he often resisted. Back then, digital gadgets were scarce, social media virtually unheard of. Communication and entertainment came through landline and feature phones, radios and television sets.
Fast forward two decades, and the digital landscape has radically transformed. Today, smartphones, computers, and the internet are not just widespread—they’re essential. With them has come the meteoric rise of social media, reshaping how people work, communicate, and seek entertainment. But along with these conveniences comes a growing concern: screen addiction, especially among children and teenagers.
A generational shift in digital exposure
Millennials—born between the early 1980s and mid-1990s—witnessed the transition from analog to digital. But Generation Z (mid-1990s to early 2010s) and Generation Alpha (2010s onward) have known nothing but the digital world. Their exposure to screens begins early, often mimicking the habits of their parents, who themselves are increasingly tethered to digital devices.
This early exposure, psychologists warn, is contributing to a surge in behavioral issues, including what is now recognized as ‘screen addiction’. Unlike occasional overuse, screen addiction mirrors the traits of substance dependency. Children become elated when allowed screen time and irritated or withdrawn when it's taken away.
“Screen addiction is now being categorized as a behavioral health issue, on par with drug or alcohol dependence,” says Gopal Dhakal, a psychologist with over 15 years of counseling experience. Sandesh Dhakal, who coordinates the Master's program in Clinical Psychology at Tribhuvan University, agrees. “Children addicted to screens display similar withdrawal and dependency patterns seen in other forms of addiction,” he adds.
Breaking the cycle: Why example matters
Studies show that children’s screen habits are directly influenced by their parents. Simply telling a child to reduce screen time while the parent remains glued to a phone sends a mixed message. “Children learn more from what parents do than from what they say,” says Sandesh Dhakal. “Leading by example is crucial.”
Rather than imposing blanket bans, psychologists recommend a balanced approach. Completely restricting screen access can backfire, creating rebellion and secrecy. Instead, setting age-appropriate time limits, using parental controls to block harmful content, and prioritizing educational use are more effective strategies.
“It’s unrealistic to avoid digital devices altogether in today’s world,” says Sandesh Dhakal. “But healthy boundaries, regular family interactions, and digital literacy are essential.”
Practical solutions for families
Psychologists suggest encouraging open communication at home about the use of technology. Involving children in setting rules for screen time creates a sense of responsibility and reduces resistance. Families can also use screen time management features built into most devices to set daily limits and block inappropriate content.
Many social media platforms, including TikTok, provide tools to help parents manage their children’s or teens’ online experiences. Since TikTok is only available to users aged 13 and older, features like daily time limits, content and keyword filters, and user reporting options are available to help block harmful material and create a safer environment. Furthermore, it's crucial for parents to explore and utilize these available tools while also encouraging open communication to ensure a balanced online environment for their children and teens.
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“Ultimately, what children need most is their parents’ time and attention,” both Dhakals agree. “Technology should support learning and connection—not replace them.”
